fear of doctors and needing to find one ASAP...suffering depression, have not seen doctor in 2 years

	Asked by Unregistered (Female; 47 ) on Fri 13, Jun 2008 07:49am :
	I am scared of Doctors. I am a 47 yr old female in Indiana. I equate going to the doctor as having done something wrong and that I am guilty of something horrible. This fear goes back to my childhood. Having to take time off work to take me to the doctor made my mother furious, coupled with the fact that the Doctor was mean. I've had 1 doctor I dearly loved, and he has died. He was my OBGYN, but treated me as my total physician, and would talk and help me no matter what the problem was. I could call him with any medical problem, he would see me, and treat me. I have not been seen since his death 2 years ago. I am suffering horrible depression with crying spells that last for days. I don't know how to find a doctor to "care" for me, not just see me. I have asked everyone I know, and most doctors in my area will not take new patients, or you have to have a certain insurance. I have Sagamore, and I am able to pay. How can I find a doctor? I need help. Please help me.
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	Answer by VanessaMD (doctor) on Thu 19, Jun 2008 04:40pm: Hi I understand your concern. You have very good insight regarding your condition and this is a good sign. You have mentioned that you have this fear of seeing doctors stemming from a childhood experience with your mother. This fear may be slowly overcome. Depression may be associated with a loss, a feeling of emptiness, or a feeling of uselessness and hopelessness. There may be associated factors or triggers which may lead to this. In your case, the loss of your doctor friend could have accentuated the condition. Little by little you will find ways to overcome this. Your doctor friend has provided you with an understanding and consideration that probably has been deprived you. The loss of this friend translate to a loss of something within you. Depression entails psychotherapy. Medications are indicated when the symptoms are severe. Continue to be proactive about this. Since I am not from Indiana, I may not be able at this point to provide you with a list of doctors you may visit or consult with in the area. However, if you have any questions or if you want to discuss anything ,do not hesitate to post here and update us. Here is a URL you may want read for further information: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/depression.html Thank you for using our service.  If you are satisfied with the answer or if you want a detailed answer for your question, please make a donation and request for further clarifications.  Our doctors will provide an elaborate answer for your clarification.   Please make a donation by clicking the button below. You may donate using funds from your PayPal account or Credit Card. Please rate my answer (select the stars below, no need to log in.)
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